Control The Controllables

June 11, 2015 in Uncategorized

Control the Controllables!!

That’s what my Mom used to always say to me when things felt like they were out of my control. Let’s face it—some things in life ARE out of our control.

But instead of worrying about those things, we have the option to instead focus on ‘controlling the controllables’.

This has been one of my best weeks yet.  I’ve been not only exercising regularly but increasing in what I’m doing.  And my food plan has been as close to perfect as it’s been in awhile.  Yesterday specifically I had the most perfect food day I’ve had all week!  Everything I ate was spot on within my carb, protein and calorie range. In fact, it was so perfect that when I stepped on the scale this morning I was shocked by a 3 pound GAIN. Excuse me?? What gives!


Luckily I’ve been on this journey long enough to know that this happens A LOT. There are unexplainable times when we literally have an excellent day or week and seemingly out of no where the scale seems to say that we laid on the couch all day only getting up to go party at Baskin Robbins. It’s why you can’t weigh too often or count on the scale to always tell the story.

Looking at the scale this morning did NOT make me feel at all motivated to exercise or eat right today.  In fact, it felt like a slap in the face.  The timing of it was too ironic though for me to not stop and think to myself….this is spiritual warfare!! A demon has snuck inside my scale to attack me!!

I know…I know….I’m sounding crazy for sure now.  But the thought came to my mind.  Because it’s just too insane that I could have gained 3 pounds after having had almost 4 perfect days in a row.   And it just felt like one more thing in life that I have no control over.  Because in the past week I’ve had multiple disappointments and anxiety producing situations. My house has no interested buyers. My daughter was in a car accident and thankfully was ok BUT I wasn’t able to control the outcome of it. My daughter and son have both been at the doctor just in the past 2 days for freak occurrences.

I mean listen to this.  Yesterday, my son had a tiny prickly thorn fly into his eye, get trapped under his eyelid and then get embedded in it!!! It was extremely painful.  We had to immediately go to the eye doctor who had to numb his entire eye and spend 20 minutes getting the embedded thorn out of his eye.  Strangest thing ever!! But the day before I spent half the morning at the Orthopedic Hospital with Charlotte having a cyst removed on her foot that had appeared there and grown into the size of a small ball within no time.  Did I mention that Charlotte is still recovering from the baseball that hit her in the eye and made her whole eye go red.  I’m sure right about now the eye doctor (who has now seen me twice in a month)  is like…..what are you doing, Mom??!!!!  Protect your children, already!

Did I forget to tell you about the car accident Savannah got in one week ago today!  She was just on her way to work and out of no where she was hit.  The car totaled.  A friend of hers called to let us know she was on her way to the emergency room but since I’m 1500 miles away I was left powerless. I couldn’t even get information from the hospital for HOURS.  And thankfully she is ok with the exception of scrapes and bruising but Still…..enough!

Did I mention I’m an emotional eater?? That I have a life threatening eating disorder which I have to spend every day keeping at bay so that I don’t use food for comfort and stress?  So things like this that pile up have a tendency to really mess with me.

And then I wake up to a scale gain after having fought all week to stay pure and on point!  It was just the last push I needed to go over the cliff.  It seems like nothing is in my control right now.  If it ever was!



But that’s ok. Because I don’t think I am alone in this.  I know I am not the only one who experiences these things or who feels like they are just existing within a circumstance they can’t control.  So this is where the rubber meets the road. Where we must refuse to allow these things to throw us off track.

Right now I have two choices. I can let the thoughts in my head take me down to McDonalds OR  I can choose to add some new thoughts.

Some less dangerous thoughts.  Because these are the thoughts that invade my mind during times like this:

Nothing I do matters so I might as well just eat.

Nothing I do matters so I might as well not exercise.

No instead, I will just forge on!! And in fact I will do something different.  I will challenge myself today to go after that 20K FitBit Badge!! I have never gotten 20,000 steps in a day but today is THE day.   My best badge so far has been 15,000.  Of which I am really proud!


But today I need something new that I can make happen.  Something I can totally control!

So I ‘m going for that 20K badge.

And you know what else? I’m also aiming for 3 Liters of water.  A goal I have yet to meet.  I’ve almost gotten there but not quite.  And you know what? THAT is something I CAN do.  I’ve divided my day into 3 sections.



5-10 pm

And my goal is to hit 6500 plus steps and 1 Liter of water during each of those time frames.  So I do know one thing.  I will FOR SURE  be in the bathroom a lot today!!  Here’s me starting on my 2nd Liter of water for the day.


But when the day is over, I will have accomplished something.  I will have done what my Mother always told me to do in times where I feel OUT of control of my circumstances.


Who’s with me?


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Caneron June 11, 2015 at 4:24 pm

I know EXACTLY what you mean! I’ve been dealing with the same scale issues & it’s the worst! I also decided to up the movement & increase my water intake. I’m also going to weigh in weekly instead of daily – I want off this roller coaster! You’re so, so right (or, rather, your Mother is!) about sticking to the controllables. I hope your children are in perfect health & freak accident-free for the rest of the summer (& beyond, of course:). Thanks for posting, love your blog!


Cameron June 11, 2015 at 4:26 pm

Would you believe I spelled my own name wrong? Hahaha it’s CaMeron. 🙂
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Mollie June 12, 2015 at 12:53 am

A saying from my dad popped in my head while reading this Holly. When things like this happened, he would say, “If it weren’t for bad luck, you’d have no luck!.” Just another goofy way to look at it.

I get frustrated too when the scale doesn’t give me the results I want after a few days. I think we have to remind ourselves that it’s going to take way more than four days of being on plan to get where we want to be! We need to pray for patience!


Iva June 12, 2015 at 2:49 pm

I am with you! We can control the things we can control! It gives us power – so forge on, Holly! Get those steps in, water in – YOU WILL BE REWARDED SOON! Forget that scale and move on! Stay with it and just know you have helped us all in the process!


Karen P June 13, 2015 at 2:52 pm

Keep going. Keep on with your plan. Time (in and out of the ER) will pass no matter what.

I have to be careful 2-3 weeks after big, stressful events due to my slippery slope thinking. Here’s to eating within your food template- no matter what.

And to a better week and summer ahead.
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jeanie June 14, 2015 at 12:46 am

you are so inspiring, love reading your blog and facebook posts as well. I too am an emotional eater.. so totally understand…keep up the great work


Renee June 15, 2015 at 7:40 pm

Hi Holly, I just found your videos on youtube. I only watched a couple of them, and felt like I should tell you… omg. Well Done. I think when you feel down, or struggle, you should go look at your pre-surgery video. It doesn’t matter if you put back some of that weight – you will get it off.. just look what you have accomplished. I am so impressed and motivated ! Keep going… keep working. Those are words I am telling myself today, because of your videos. So, thank you. 🙂


zara June 17, 2015 at 12:44 pm

I would love to see those videos… Where are they?


anneli June 16, 2015 at 4:34 pm

I’ve long known that the only solution to a scale is an exorcist.


John (Daddy Runs a Lot) June 16, 2015 at 4:44 pm

It’s a tough lesson to learn, but an important one. Yeah — “eating on point & working out” is all you can do — the scale is going to read however the scale is going to read. As long as you’re focused on the stuff that you can control, all is good.
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Amanda June 22, 2015 at 1:27 pm

Oh goodness! you have had some serious stress! THAT’S what’s keeping the scale from moving. Once things settle down, you’ll see a big drop. Keep doing what you’re doing.


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