Wednesday is the middle of the week. It’s usually a day that feels difficult. You’re somewhere in between. Not at the beginning but not at the end.
I’ve felt that way for a long time. So much in the middle of this journey that I’m too far in to go back and yet still too far out to see the finish line.
That’s when ‘impossible’ sits on your chest and threatens to crush your progress. It makes you feel restless. Like everything is too hard.
And maybe you won’t really ever get there.
But the truth is that it’s amazing I ever started in the first place.
Because when you have to lose 300 pounds or more, it seems overwhelming.
It seems impossible.
You’re too far gone. You’re beyond help.
And you have so far to go that you’ll never get there.
The only reason I even started on this journey in the first place is because my brother did.
First, he did.
And then he flew to my house and said you can too. And I’ll help.
So we started shoveling out together.
If I had had to shovel out by myself, I wouldn’t have even started.
Because I was just in too deep.
So he picked up the shovel and started shoveling for me.
And when I was ready, I picked up a shovel too. And then we were shoveling together.
Because that’s how you get out of deep holes. With people who don’t mind shoveling when you don’t have the strength to.
No one can lose the weight for us. That’s true. But it doesn’t mean we have do this alone.
All along the way I’ve had people help me. First my brother who gave me the vision. The hope to even try.
And then later it was others who came along when I needed them. Like people along the sidelines of your life cheering you on when you needed it.
Sometimes it was them. And sometimes it was others. And sometimes for a stretch of the road it seemed like I was shoveling all alone.
But there’s always a turn. There’s always someone up ahead holding a shovel. Waiting for their stretch of the road.
Waiting to cheer you around that corner.
You aren’t alone. At least you don’t have to be. So reach for the help when you need it. Accept it when it comes. And look for it when it doesn’t.
Seek it out when you have to.
BUT NEVER SHOVEL ALONE
Because that IS hard. Too hard. And that does feel impossible.
But when we look for one another it becomes easier. Not EASY. But—easier.
So everyone grab a shovel. Because we all need friends. So be the friend that someone needs. Pick up the shovel. Show up and start shoveling.
Because just when YOU need it, someone will show up in your driveway and start shoveling when you least expect it.
So be that person for someone else. When you can. When you’re able. Because we need each other. We really do.
And I get that I’m symbolic but we all know I’m talking about weight.
And I am.
But it’s more than that.
Because weight is more than pounds.
It’s shoveling low self esteem and depression and lack of motivation and hopeless situations.
It’s shoveling the !@@##!! of life. And we all need someone to help us shovel it, ok? Because if we help each other, it isn’t impossible.
IT ISN’T IMPOSSIBLE
Winter won’t last forever. The sun will shine again. But first you have to pick up a shovel. For yourself. For your friends.
That’s how we get through it. That’s how we we win.
And we will win
So just keep shoveling. A little bit every day. That’s how we’ll get there.
Because we WILL get there. So don’t give up.