The Ritual of Monday

August 18, 2014 in Uncategorized

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I used to always start a diet on Monday.

It seemed like Mondays were always full of so much promise.

I enjoyed looking forward to Mondays actually because on Fridays the Mondays would give me hope without pressure.

On Friday,  Monday seemed sooooo far away.

And the best part about that was the fact that I could eat whatever I wanted.

In fact…..I SHOULD….I would tell myself.

After all—this is my last chance.

The Last Supper so to speak

And there is no guilt at all about it!

“I don’t have to feel guilty about this donut.  It’s Saturday.  Now is the TIME to eat what I want.  I owe it to myself.  And by Monday I will be ready.  I will be mentally prepared to change. But now…now it’s time to enjoy my donut guilt-free.”

Then Monday would roll around and I would be fine until maybe 11 am.

Sometimes I would even make it all the way through Monday.

But inevitably it would happen

The FREAK-OUT

The realization that I had to stick to a diet OR ELSE

And if I failed—it was OVER

Panic would set in and I could feel my resolve slipping away.

Before I knew it…..I was eating another donut.  Oh let’s be real….the BOX

Only this time it wasn’t  guilt free.  So I would barely enjoy it

What followed was the usual berating of myself and how I will never ever ever be able to lose this weight

Followed by an acceptance that this is just who I am

I am just a big person.  

I love food.  

I enjoy eating

And maybe I should stop being so hard on myself….ya know??

 

Maybe I should learn to love myself AS-IS

And then I would grab another donut….with a little less guilt

And then another….

The next few days felt like freedom.   Freedom from having to diet.  Freedom from having to try

Until Thursday rolled around.  And then I started wondering….should I try again?

By Friday, I would choose a different diet and say “That’s it!  This time I will stick to the diet”

I can do this!!!   I really can!!!

And you know what???

I will start—-

MONDAY

The Last Supper ritual would begin again…..

And it all repeats itself

So welcome to Monday!!

 

I don’t do that anymore.   I mean don’t get me wrong.   Monday does give you a fresh start and it is important to get off on the right foot if we can.  But Monday sometimes carries a little too much weight.  Who says you can’t start on a Wednesday?  Who says you can’t begin again on a Thursday?  The idea that Monday we will somehow be better equipped to reject a donut than we were the day before is really ludicrous when you think about it.  I never met a Monday that injected me with supernatural power I didn’t possess on Sunday.  If I have a hard time saying no to a donut on Friday—then Monday isn’t going to be any different.

This is what I’ve learned.   Monday is just another day of the week.  And there is no reason to start anything on a Monday.  There is also no reason to wait until Monday to start.  If something is worth trying, it’s worth trying today.

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We don’t need to lie to ourselves.   We don’t need to pretend Monday has super powers.  We don’t need to act as if there is some unwritten rule that deems Monday the only day to try.   But that doesn’t mean we need to heap guilt on ourselves if we decide to try on Monday and then screw it up an hour later.  What we need to do is accept that there are things we need to work on.  And waiting to work on those things only makes them harder.  Maybe it’s the fact that we try and screw up that keeps us always in the “waiting room” mode.   Always thinking we need to take a few days before trying to start again.

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Today I want Monday to just be Monday.   No added pressure.  I just want it to be another 24 hours.  Another day to make an effort.  But I don’t want it to be the only day of the week where a new beginning can happen.

Instead today is just TODAY!!!  Not Monday.

Not Day One of another diet.

It’s just NOW

It’s just THIS MOMENT

With no pressure that means I have to outperform any other day of the week

That I have to somehow be stronger than I was yesterday.

Today is just today.   And that is one more day to give my best effort—whatever that will be.

If I screw up then I screw up!! But who cares what day it is.  We start again as soon as we can and move forward.

Making every day and every moment the very best time available to puruse our dreams!!

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Jennifer Shoalmire August 18, 2014 at 1:14 pm

Good morning,

When I listened to Dr. Oz’ You on a Diet, he stated that a wrong choice/food/meal/day is just an opportunity for a U-turn. So take the U-turn right then and do the next right thing. I used to always start on Monday also. Now I know that if I choose to enjoy something that may not follow my strict food rules, it’s OK and I can take a U-turn at the next moment and enjoy the choice I made and make sure I focus on healthy choices for the rest of the day/hour/week…Happy Day!

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John (Daddy Runs a Lot) August 18, 2014 at 3:24 pm

With the way I used to stick to “healthy eating plans” (I abhor the word “diet”) the lead up to “I’ll do it from Day X” made the lead up to “Day X” feel like time on death row. It took me a long time to realize “no, start NOW.” That meant not only every day is a day for choosing to be healthy, but every hour . . . too often, I would get into a rut of “well, I’ve already blown my day away, today, what’s another doughnut going to do?”
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Lori August 18, 2014 at 4:44 pm

Oh, I lived in that place for so long – restarting on Monday. Then it was restarting tomorrow, which was still just an excuse to indulge. Now, it is restart right now!
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Alison C. August 18, 2014 at 5:46 pm

Love this! And you described my every weekend perfectly! I actually referred to my weekend binges as my Last Supper before I would try to diet starting Monday. And it went just about as well as you described! Thankfully, for today, God has delivered me from that madness, and I only need to be concerned with today. This post is a wonderful reminder of that. Also – I LOVED LOVED LOVED your back-to-school survival kits! So creative!

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LosingTheRolls August 18, 2014 at 6:33 pm

You nailed it Holly! The whole premise about guilt free eating leading up to the big start day. I’ve done that too many times to count. Like Lori, I suffer from the ‘I will start Tomorrow’ line. Over and over again, I will start tomorrow. I am constantly starting tomorrow. I’m so tired of it. Great post!
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Cindy R August 18, 2014 at 6:56 pm

Loved your “back-to-school” bags. My daughter is going to be a senior in high school and I added a ruler with a note that said “this goes without saying–Seniors Rule!” Her school had a senior retreat that started on Friday at an away camp and the children returned home on Sunday afternoon. When she came in on Sunday afternoon, I gave her the gift bag. She seemed kind of surprised, as she reached in the bag and pulled out each item, her smile started to get bigger and bigger. I am so glad that I saw your post on Saturday and had time to assemble the bag before her return. Thank you so much for such an inspirational gift!

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Startingoveragain September 11, 2014 at 10:24 pm

This has been a perpetual ritual and now I am starting to realize how much weight I put on before “starting my diet”. In addition, breaking the sugar/bingeing habit and going through withdrawals time and time again is no fun. Somewhere in my crazy thinking I would believe that if I could just eat every sweet I had been craving, I would never eat it again because I was “starting my diet”. But I’m beginning to realize I cannot eat it all-ever. There are no boundaries when I get on that crazy train. I just need to begin again where I am and move on.

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