Life’s A Dance

August 16, 2013 in Uncategorized




Someone posted this on Facebook

And I love it

Because this journey is more like a dance

Than walking a straight line

I’ve never been very good at dancing

If you asked me to dance, I’d probably step on your feet

More than anything else

When you dance, someone leads

And you’re supposed to follow

But I’ve never been very good at that

I tried to dance not long ago


After all….I am in Texas right?

But in order to two-step

Someone is stepping forward

While you’re stepping backward

So you have two people going in opposite directions

Even though you’re both trying to end up in the same place!

I’d say the two-step is probably not a difficult dance

But if you’re like me

You can make it difficult!

I’d much rather dance on my own

Where there are no steps to follow

Because I don’t like the pressure

Remembering where to put my feet

And hoping I don’t end up on the floor

Because I went left when I should have gone right

But if you want to live in Texas

And you want to dance

You’re going to have to learn to two step

And that means practice!

There was a time in my life

Not too long ago

Where I never would have dared

To get out on a dance floor

Where I would not have even dreamed

Of dancing

But when I lost weight

I decided to accept new adventures

Even the ones that may include

Taking two steps forward

And one step back

Because that’s what the weight loss journey is like

You’re going to stumble and fall

You may feel like a fool on certain days

And if you’re trying to follow someone else’s lead

You may find yourself

Wanting to just break free

And dance to the beat of your own drum!

I’ve learned that both methods are ok

Sometimes we find a diet or food plan that works

It’s one someone else has outlined for us

And we have to follow their lead

Their rules and guidelines

When we do this, it’s much like the two step

They lead and you follow

But what if you end up stepping on their toes?

Because somewhere along the line

You find THEIR steps just don’t work for your dance

That’s when you have to break away

Break out and find your own rhythm

And that’s ok too

You may decide following someone else’s food plan

Or exercise regime

Just doesn’t get you very far around the dance floor

So you spin yourself out on your own

And test the waters

You just may find you prefer that kind of dance

You may still stumble and fall

But if you keep getting up

You’ll get there

We have to be optimistic about this journey

We have to learn that it’s a dance we create on our own

It belongs to us

And no one else

You may find following in another’s footsteps works for you

But if it doesn’t

Then don’t view your dance as a failure

Just see it as a cha-cha!

See it as your own creation!

We learn from our failures

We find what works by learning what DOESN’T

Sometimes we get tired

We get defeated

And we decide to sit out the next dance

I’ve done that many times over the course of my life

And recently I’ve done it with weight loss

I decided somewhere along the way that I was tired of the dance

And I’d rather just watch

Because 2 years is a long time to be working on something

And I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t tired at times of working on this

But now I’m tired of sitting on the sidelines

Watching others spin and twirl their way across the weight loss dance floor

While I remain stagnant

Convinced Im too tired for one last dance

I’m down 240 pounds

And I’ve got 60 to go

And I just won’t  get there by being content to watch others out there

While I sit on the sidelines

There are two types of people you’ll see

Those that head out to the dance floor and give it their all

And the rest who sit outside on a bench

Watching through the window

Which one will we be?

Will we stop midway and sit it out

Or will we strap on our boots and give it another try?

There will always be other things calling to you

You can leave the dance floor for food

You can go outside with the smokers

You can head to the bar for another drink

And all of those things will lead you back to a prison

A prison of complacency

A prison of stagnancy

Because when food won’t do it for you anymore

We can find other things to take its place

But you’ll find it all leads to the same place

Where you’re going no where

It’s tempting to sit it out

To give up

Because we’re tired of the same dance

So maybe it’s time to create a new one

Even if it means we’re the only one dancing

Even if it means our dance looks nothing like anyone else’s

I’ve struggled a lot the past few months

With finding my motivation

But I know one thing

I will never reach my goals

If I keep leaving the dance floor to sit on the bench

Charlotte taught me that sometimes you have to make sacrifices

To get to your dreams

And when I watch my daughter’s love for dancing

My faith becomes renewed

Because she has to learn the steps

She has to be willing to fail and try again

And if she can do that

So can I

So let’s grab each other’s hands

And head back to the dance floor

Not looking back to the things that lie behind

But forward to the wide open dance floor

Where we can make our dreams come true

“I know that I have not yet reached that goal, but there is one thing I always do. Forgetting the past and straining toward what is ahead”

Phillipians 3:13


There is a song that says

“Life’s a dance, you learn as you go”

I’ve found that to be true

Sink or swim

You gotta give it a whirl!

So don’t worry about what  you don’t know

Just get out there and learn as you go

A two step involves

Taking two quick steps

Followed by two slow steps

My weight loss journey is like this too

Sometimes I’m moving quickly

And sometimes I’m moving slowly

But the key to the dance

Is to just keep moving

Keep two-stepping your way around that dance floor

And if the music ends

Don’t leave

Just wait for the next song

Because you may feel like you’re going in circles

But really you’re making a life

That’s full of twists and turns

Ups and downs

But in the end

Will bring you back to where you belong

The dance of life

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Losing The Rolls August 16, 2013 at 2:51 pm

Great analogy. I’ve been cha-cha-ing a lot lately, maybe it is time to learn a new dance.
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Angela August 16, 2013 at 3:23 pm

Yes, I like the comparison is very accurate. I have been on a weight-loss journey for 18 months and I too am finding that I’m “tired” or maybe bored with it. Then I look at a picture of me right before I started my journey and I never want to go back to that or someone will compliment me on my weight loss and I feel like I owe it to them somehow, for some reason, to keep working. (Weird, I know!) So, maybe it is time for me to learn a new dance …try something new …stretch myself a little!?!??! I always enjoy your posts Holly. Thank you for sharing and for making us think!


Jayne August 16, 2013 at 3:23 pm

Oh wow, as always your blogs speak to me and encourage me that I really am making a lifestyle change and definitely doing the cha cha cha. Love the songs. Thank you so much for sharing and being transparent.


Shay August 16, 2013 at 10:27 pm

Oh my gosh, I LOVE that quote! And you’re right–we can’t give up on anything in life that we really, really want…we just keep dancing!!
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Trish August 16, 2013 at 11:21 pm

Yes…I think we should dance! Love the analogy. ♥♥
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Mary Ellen Quigley August 17, 2013 at 1:28 am

I love the analogy! You are absolutely right that we should all keep dancing. Sometimes we have to find a new dance though.
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Sheryl C. August 17, 2013 at 3:46 pm

Now I want to learn to two-step! 🙂
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